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Are you being controlled and abused by your partner or someone else in authority?






























All abuse is dangerous, but Narcissistic Abuse is, to me, particularly insidious. The Abuser appears so loving to start with, but slowly over time cuts off support mechanisms and positive relationships, isolating the victim, and then being incredibly manipulative, making the abuse seem like the victims fault, making them feel like it is them who have failed in some way, not good enough, must try harder, be better.

The reality is that it is the Narcissistic Abuser who has failed, who is not good enough. Somewhere in their childhood they did not form secure loving relationships and learned to get what they need by manipulating others, isolating others, abusing others. As I commented on Facebook, they appear to be strong but are actually weak. 

Do you recognise this pattern?
Are you a victim of a Narcissistic Abuser?
Has your partner or another person isolated you from family and friends?
Do they control where you can go and who you can see?
Are they critical of your family and friends when you do go and see them?
Do they have temper tantrums and then blame you for making that happen?
Do they apologise and promise to change, or tell you that it's only because they love you?
Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells, afraid of upsetting them at the slightest thing?
Do you feel your needs have definitely taken a back seat to their needs?
Do you feel constantly Not Good Enough, a failure, low self esteem, no confidence?

The truth is that you have a right to be you, 
To have a voice
To be respected
To be free from fear and abuse


If you are the victim of Narcissistic Abuse, please please get in touch
TA Therapy is an excellent way for you to discover who you really are and be able to understand why you have ended up where you are, but more importantly, how you can change and move on.

And if you are so insecure that the only way you can get your relationship needs met is by controlling the person you love, by abusing them (let's be honest here), then realise what is happening and get in touch for therapy also. It does not have to continue this way, and abusers need to find healing also. 

To get in touch, click the big red button to go to the Contacts page :



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An Important Life Lesson : 


A script, in TA terms, is a life pattern, something we do over and over and over again that isn't helping us, often without knowing why we are doing what we are doing.


As we approach 2015, perhaps it is time to reflect. 

  • What do I keep on doing that I don't want to do any more? 

  • What are the alternatives and choices I have to this?

  • Can I give up doing something that is destructive to me or those around me?


A script is like a play, a drama that is our life, and we play our part, the fool, the victim, the alcoholic, the strong man, the woman behind the man, the workaholic ... etc etc, till death do us part.

What is your 'script', your drama, the pattern you just can't seem to break?

Transactional Analysis is my particular form of counselling and therapy, partly because it provides easy ways to look at why we do what we do and how we can change. Scripts are just one example of that. 

By becoming more aware of why we do what we do, we have more power to change the things we want to change.


If, in the New year, you need help breaking your 'script', or patterns in your life that are not helpful, please do contact me. Therapy really can help.

E-mail: garryrollins13@sky.com

Tel: 0116 2120791

or contact me through this website here

Have a great New year x

Garry Rollins.
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